Nick, I am glad you have a comment section. You handled this as professionally and safely as was possible. I have no idea what your boss thought he was doing, but you not only did the right, the professional, the safe, and the mature thing--you also asked for help. That help was not forthcoming is sickening. I hope that you have some people you can process this with and maybe make some decisions about how best to move forward with more support than you are getting. If you have no one to talk to, let me know.
People tend to suck. I am so sorry that happened to you and your partner. It should never have happened. My experience is that not many people are cut out to be managers. It takes a tremendous amount of empathy and emotional maturity. Sounds like your boss lacks these things, or perhaps he is also at the breaking point. Either way, it was a stupid response. Take good care of you. You are valued by most of us just because you do the job. Keep sharing what bothers you, we listen.
Ug. I am so sorry. I have been on that same call more times than I would care to count. The pay, the hours, the conditions...we know these are terrible when we get into this business. Helping people, and supportive coworkers and leadership help us manage (and offset) those terrible facets. I am sorry that you have what could only be described as a complete abdication of leadership.
I am so sorry you encountered the very worst of society while doing your job which you so so clearly care deeply about. I hope you find solace and aid where and when you need it. And from the bottom of my heart and soul, thank you for BEING.
Why do hurt people hurt people? It's so rage-inducing. You did absolutely the right thing all the way through, including writing this piece. I find it amazing that you have the space to not react in those situations, it shows a level of professionalism and maturity that deserves to be supported and compensated for. I just want you to know that you are appreciated. Even if I hadn't known about this situation, I'm continually grateful for people like you who level us all up by refusing to meet the energy of the lowest common denominator.
I am so sorry you had to endure that level of abuse. I am always so relieved, happy, excited, and close to joyful when an ambulance I've summoned arrives. I just assumed everyone was similar.
Abusing people who are at work, especially when the work entails caring for others, saving lives even!, is indicative of how angry, fearful, and deranged American society has become.
Sadly, as a teacher, I've had every one of the insults you listed hurled at me. I've had parents threaten to beat me up and when I complained to administration the response was, "Noted." I was outraged.
The caring professions in this country are not appreciated nearly enough.
Nor are any of you paid enough to have to put up with threats and insults. I, for one, appreciate both of you for caring enough about those patients or students to keep going.
As an aside, my son’s life was saved by a hospital and ambulance just this past Wednesday. The ambulance transported him from one hospital to another where he could get necessary treatment. I thank God for people who do that difficult job.
Smh. You didn’t deserve any of that. I don’t know what to tell you except some people wouldn’t recognize a blessing if it bit em in the ass. Kudos for keeping your cool. You must have an excellent partner to have each others backs. But yeah, you are taking on a lot of stress from the inherent situation compounded by idiots like these. Need somewhere to put it safely. ((hugs))
Noy much, but i experience similar noise when i was working on Chemical Dependency unit. I was glad that i was part of a treatment team. That "reptilian brain," so lightly obscured by the tissue thin layer of civilization.
Bad enough that the family was verbally abusive to you, but to get no real support from your supervisor is not ok. Know that what you do, and the patients you help matter. I worked in the medical field with the elderly for 13 years, I get it. Hang in there.
I'm a writer, Nick, and if someone sent me a short story based on what you just experienced , I'd say, this story is completely unbelievable and it's not even funny, you've got to rewrite it. You were incredibly disciplined in your response, but clearly it took a horrible toll. And your supervisor must have been underwater, someplace. Hang in there. We sure do need you!
So sorry you got this grief and no support. We appreciate those in our society who take these hard jobs. Thanks for all you do, I hope future calls go much better and you can get the support you need.
As a retired ER RN I want to thank you for being on the front line of helping patients that need assistance. All too often the paramedics and the nurses and aides are on the receiving end of verbal (and sometimes physical) abuse. Please know that your work in the field makes the work of the hospital staff much easier and all of us appreciate your dedication, patience and skill.
I sincerely thank you for the work you do. Our family had two recent experiences with paramedics in Toronto. I can only sing the praises of the kind, compassionate care we received. I know you work hard and from your writing, I can tell you are a very caring person. 🙏
The state of WA has started a government funded treatment group for first responders to deal with this problem. I believe it was on KOMO news yesterday or the day before. The legislature approved it awhile ago. Maybe you can check it out and get someone to pay attention where you are. If you need help finding it, I can go back and find the name of the organization.
Nick, I imagine that controlling yourself in the situation drained every bit of emotional reserve you had. I would say that you deserve better, but experience has taught me that few things are more aggravating than getting the opposite of what you think you deserve. I appreciate you trusting us to read about your experiences.
Nick, I am glad you have a comment section. You handled this as professionally and safely as was possible. I have no idea what your boss thought he was doing, but you not only did the right, the professional, the safe, and the mature thing--you also asked for help. That help was not forthcoming is sickening. I hope that you have some people you can process this with and maybe make some decisions about how best to move forward with more support than you are getting. If you have no one to talk to, let me know.
People tend to suck. I am so sorry that happened to you and your partner. It should never have happened. My experience is that not many people are cut out to be managers. It takes a tremendous amount of empathy and emotional maturity. Sounds like your boss lacks these things, or perhaps he is also at the breaking point. Either way, it was a stupid response. Take good care of you. You are valued by most of us just because you do the job. Keep sharing what bothers you, we listen.
Ug. I am so sorry. I have been on that same call more times than I would care to count. The pay, the hours, the conditions...we know these are terrible when we get into this business. Helping people, and supportive coworkers and leadership help us manage (and offset) those terrible facets. I am sorry that you have what could only be described as a complete abdication of leadership.
I am so sorry you encountered the very worst of society while doing your job which you so so clearly care deeply about. I hope you find solace and aid where and when you need it. And from the bottom of my heart and soul, thank you for BEING.
Why do hurt people hurt people? It's so rage-inducing. You did absolutely the right thing all the way through, including writing this piece. I find it amazing that you have the space to not react in those situations, it shows a level of professionalism and maturity that deserves to be supported and compensated for. I just want you to know that you are appreciated. Even if I hadn't known about this situation, I'm continually grateful for people like you who level us all up by refusing to meet the energy of the lowest common denominator.
I am so sorry you had to endure that level of abuse. I am always so relieved, happy, excited, and close to joyful when an ambulance I've summoned arrives. I just assumed everyone was similar.
Abusing people who are at work, especially when the work entails caring for others, saving lives even!, is indicative of how angry, fearful, and deranged American society has become.
Sadly, as a teacher, I've had every one of the insults you listed hurled at me. I've had parents threaten to beat me up and when I complained to administration the response was, "Noted." I was outraged.
The caring professions in this country are not appreciated nearly enough.
Nor are any of you paid enough to have to put up with threats and insults. I, for one, appreciate both of you for caring enough about those patients or students to keep going.
As an aside, my son’s life was saved by a hospital and ambulance just this past Wednesday. The ambulance transported him from one hospital to another where he could get necessary treatment. I thank God for people who do that difficult job.
Smh. You didn’t deserve any of that. I don’t know what to tell you except some people wouldn’t recognize a blessing if it bit em in the ass. Kudos for keeping your cool. You must have an excellent partner to have each others backs. But yeah, you are taking on a lot of stress from the inherent situation compounded by idiots like these. Need somewhere to put it safely. ((hugs))
Noy much, but i experience similar noise when i was working on Chemical Dependency unit. I was glad that i was part of a treatment team. That "reptilian brain," so lightly obscured by the tissue thin layer of civilization.
I'm very sorry this happened to you!
Hang in there. Many people appreciate you and the job you do. Don't let those a-holes bring you down!
Bad enough that the family was verbally abusive to you, but to get no real support from your supervisor is not ok. Know that what you do, and the patients you help matter. I worked in the medical field with the elderly for 13 years, I get it. Hang in there.
I'm a writer, Nick, and if someone sent me a short story based on what you just experienced , I'd say, this story is completely unbelievable and it's not even funny, you've got to rewrite it. You were incredibly disciplined in your response, but clearly it took a horrible toll. And your supervisor must have been underwater, someplace. Hang in there. We sure do need you!
This shit goes on everywhere.
So sorry you got this grief and no support. We appreciate those in our society who take these hard jobs. Thanks for all you do, I hope future calls go much better and you can get the support you need.
As a retired ER RN I want to thank you for being on the front line of helping patients that need assistance. All too often the paramedics and the nurses and aides are on the receiving end of verbal (and sometimes physical) abuse. Please know that your work in the field makes the work of the hospital staff much easier and all of us appreciate your dedication, patience and skill.
I sincerely thank you for the work you do. Our family had two recent experiences with paramedics in Toronto. I can only sing the praises of the kind, compassionate care we received. I know you work hard and from your writing, I can tell you are a very caring person. 🙏
The state of WA has started a government funded treatment group for first responders to deal with this problem. I believe it was on KOMO news yesterday or the day before. The legislature approved it awhile ago. Maybe you can check it out and get someone to pay attention where you are. If you need help finding it, I can go back and find the name of the organization.
Nick, I imagine that controlling yourself in the situation drained every bit of emotional reserve you had. I would say that you deserve better, but experience has taught me that few things are more aggravating than getting the opposite of what you think you deserve. I appreciate you trusting us to read about your experiences.